Also set all components to use the latest version already used in the codebase (3.4.1)

Needed because upgrading grpc-java past 1.58 breaks CycloneDX 2.7.6
and grpc-java 1.58 is needed for modules

1.58 fixes issues around module support

Needed to be able to handle module-info.class files

Resolve various errors about test-only dependencies.
Note that arrow-tools doesn't need a compile-dependency
on jackson because it gets it through the shaded arrow-vector
JAR.

There appear to be false positives around Jackson usage in arrow-tools
with versions greater than 3.1.2 up to at least 3.6.0.

There are issues looking up FlatBuffers in the arrow-tools
tests if arrow-vector gets shaded with a newer version up to
at least 3.5.1.

Change the project to not use the module path for most compilation
since most compilation will target JDK8.

2.16.1 in particular had faulty module-info files.

There are issues looking up gRPC in the flight-integration0tests
tests if flight-core gets shaded with a newer version up to
at least 3.5.1.